I understand that the "Why" phase of development is very important. There are lot of things that come out of this. Cognitive understanding, cause and effect, the importance of communication. I mean, there are a lot of great things that come out of asking why. In fact, my husband swears by it. He is of the belief that he is a more educated, adjusted and confident person because he learned from a young age to ask why and more importantly, to not feel silly asking.
Well, whoopty-friggen-doo for him! He gets to go to work. I have to sit at home and answer "why questions" all day. If I could sum it up in one word it would simply be, exhausting. Especially since, a lot of the "why questions" aren't really because she wants to know, it's just a distraction tactic so she gets to do what I've asked her to stop doing, longer.
"Stop hitting your brother!" Why? "You'll hurt him"
"Don't stand in the buggy" Why? "You'll fall and get hurt."
"Eat your breakfast." Why? "Because you'll be hungry later."
"Sit in your car seat." Why? "Because it's not safe to drive without out seat belts on."
"You can't have ice cream" Why? "Because you turn into a crazy person!"
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Why shouldn't you eat dirt. Hmm... |
You didn't see it coming. You couldn't! After 6 hours of "whying" every little thing that has come out of your mouth. It happens... The words are slipping out past your lips before you can choke them back.
"BECAUSE I SAID SO!!"
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And there you have it! You have become your mother. You swore up and down that you would never say that. Why would you? You will have the patience of mother Teresa with your precious baby angels, unlike your ADD mother who never spent enough time with you. (sob*) But, it has happened. It has come full circle and you know what? Now that you've said it, you realize that this isn't actually a cop out answer like you initially though. No, it turns out to be totally true!
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Who knew? |
"Shh, your brother is sleeping," Why?
Why what? Why is your brother sleeping or why do I want you to be quite. Really? You know the answer to both of these questions. But you get pulled into answering "why questions" and next thing you know 20 minutes have gone by and they still haven't brushed their teeth.
So yes, It happens. Yes, some times I don't give any real explanation other then to say it's my way or the highway. But you know what? I don't feel bad about it. Why?
BECAUSE I SAID SO!
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