Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Why Mommy?

Oh my Lord!  I don't know if you've been through this or are going through this but I swear, that if my daughter asks me one more time, "why?" I'm going to lose my schmit!
I understand that the "Why" phase of development is very important.  There are lot of things that come out of this.  Cognitive understanding, cause and effect, the importance of communication.  I mean, there are a lot of great things that come out of asking why.  In fact, my husband swears by it.  He is of the belief that he is a more educated, adjusted and confident person because he learned from a young age to ask why and more importantly, to not feel silly asking.

Well, whoopty-friggen-doo for him!  He gets to go to work.  I have to sit at home and answer "why questions" all day.  If I could sum it up in one word it would simply be, exhausting.  Especially since, a lot of the "why questions" aren't really because she wants to know, it's just a distraction tactic so she gets to do what I've asked her to stop doing, longer.

"Stop hitting your brother!"  Why?  "You'll hurt him"
"Don't stand in the buggy"  Why?   "You'll fall and get hurt."
"Eat your breakfast."  Why?   "Because you'll be hungry later."
"Sit in your car seat."  Why?  "Because it's not safe to drive without out seat belts on."
"You can't have ice cream"  Why?  "Because you turn into a crazy person!"
Why shouldn't you eat dirt.  Hmm...
Why? Why? Why why?  ARG!!  I don't know!! Just do what I ask!!  Why is it so hard to just follow direction?  Is it really necessary to know why I ask you to eat your peas?  Then it happens...

You didn't see it coming.  You couldn't!  After 6 hours of "whying" every little thing that has come out of your mouth.  It happens... The words are slipping out past your lips before you can choke them back.

"BECAUSE I SAID SO!!"

...

And there you have it!  You have become your mother.  You swore up and down that you would never say that.  Why would you?  You will have the patience of mother Teresa with your precious baby angels, unlike your ADD mother who never spent enough time with you.  (sob*) But, it has happened.  It has come full circle and you know what?  Now that you've said it, you realize that this isn't actually a cop out answer like you initially though.  No, it turns out to be totally true!

Sometimes things have to be done just because... I said so.  There is no scientific reasoning behind my wanting you to don underwear before leaving the house.  It's just expected that you do so in this country we call America.  Sure, no one would even know and probably won't even care if you don't wear them But since you are my kid and I think it is only appropriate that you do wear underwear, then wear them you shall.  Why?  Because I said so.  The End.

Who knew?
There is no other logical explanation needed after this argument.  Because, honestly, it can get really our of hand otherwise.

"Shh, your brother is sleeping," Why?

Why what?  Why is your brother sleeping or why do I want you to be quite.  Really?  You know the answer to both of these questions.  But you get pulled into answering "why questions" and next thing you know 20 minutes have gone by and they still haven't brushed their teeth.

So yes, It happens.  Yes, some times I don't give any real explanation other then to say it's my way or the highway.  But you know what?  I don't feel bad about it.   Why?

BECAUSE I SAID SO!

Antenella

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